2023 at La Casa Mendoza

BREAKING NEWS at La Casa Mendoza! Laura retired! After 30 years with Hallmark, Laura poetically hung up her apron the weekend BEFORE Mother’s Day! As no one really retires from anything – they retire to the next thing – Laura has taken an even deeper dive into her service with 4-H serving on the Pierce County Leaders Council, and with the Pierce County Clothing & Textile Advisors (CTA) helping to raise funds for the various community endeavors of this group. Pierce County continues to recognize Laura’s work as they again selected her as an Outstanding Volunteer.

She is also enjoying spending more time with her mom. Laura continues to do her part in shaping the next generation of sewists, with many of her kids winning first place ribbons at the county and state fairs.

Jim continues his voice lessons with the fabulous Jordyn Day. This year, Jordyn challenged Jim to enter the Contemporary Music category – and he placed 3rd. He also placed 3rd in the Music Theater-Advanced Adult category. Last year we shared that Jim began auditioning at local community theaters. Guess what, he got call backs! (If you get a chance, ask him about his call back for “Jersey Boys”.) Though he did not get cast, knowing that theater folks were interested in his voice was quite the reward.

Jim’s Masonic journey continues to be a blessing and took an unexpected turn when he accepted the opportunity to be a Rainbow Dad. For those not familiar, the Rainbow Girls is a Masonic youth service organization for young women between ages 11 and 20 that teaches leadership training through community service. The Rainbow Dad is essentially the “male role model” for the group. Like Jim, the young lady who asked him to take on this role is a musical theater geek, and they truly connected, even having sung a duet.

Jim enjoys the ritualistic work of Freemasonry and the lessons the work imparts. For him, it’s all about trying to inspire candidates and his brothers. The statewide organization thought enough of what he does by recognizing him as their first recipient of its Lifetime Achievement in Ritual Excellence.

There was some sadness at La Casa Mendoza as our beloved Sassy, the Sweet Sazoo, crossed the Rainbow Bridge. Sassy truly fit her name. She may have been the runt of her litter, but she was packed with personality and love. If you visited our home, Sassy would greet you at the door, find her way onto your lap, chest, shoulder, follow you into the bathroom, I think you get the picture. Though she was with us for just shy of six years, Sassy left a lasting imprint on our hearts. Her sister, Bells, seems to be adjusting well as a bachelorette kitty. Bells loves laps, especially those with a blanket; and sitting under a dripping water faucet. So we laughed, pushed ourselves into new challenges & vistas, and were even moved to tears. That’s what’s known as a full year, and one more chapter in our wonderful life. From our house to yours, the best of the holidays and my God’s blessings be on you & yours.

2022 at La Casa Mendoza

All the things we love to do came back live & in living color and in full effect!

As y’all know we love live theater, and it was great to return to our seats and experience the energy that that forum brings. We were especially pleased to watch our friend and Jim’s voice coach, Jordyn, take the stage as Mary in a local production of Jesus Christ Superstar. She absolutely rocked the house!

Speaking about houses, project “Reclaim the Backyard” has begun in earnest. A couple of problematic trees were removed (including the stumps), and a whole lot of crushed rock has been spread throughout our landscape. There’s still a lot of work to do as we create the backyard that we want, but as our present home will be our retirement home it will be worth it.

All work and no play make for a boring Laura & Jim, so we got together with about 40 of our closest friends for a bit of fun & frivolity. 😊 Jim’s Masonic Lodge decided to take a cruise, so for seven days the Harmony of the Seas was our “home”. The great thing about our little getaway was that we got to eat different food, breath different air, see wonderous things, and make new friends.

Directing our energies in the fight against breast cancer to the work of the Carol Milgard Breast Center seems to be a great fit. Thanks to events like Pink in the Park and performing at Relay for Life we are able again to celebrate all that it means to Rock the Pink, and it feels fantastic.

Laura’s 4-H club was able to return to full in-person instruction, and her club continues to grow. Passing on needle & thread skills to the next generation of sewists is a passion for Laura, and the joy that she exudes when she brags on her kids is something to behold. In the spirit of the teacher is always a student, Laura again challenged herself as an ongoing member of an online group, 52 Weeks Sewing Challenge, by completing all 52 challenges – her second consecutive year of meeting this challenge. Many of her sewing projects are given to local non-profits that support kids. She was also thrilled that her local sewing group was able to have their four-day sewing retreat after not having it the past two years. Sewing with 35 of her sewing friends and having all meals catered was a perfect way to relax.

Jim continues his vocal journey and may be having far too much fun. His coach continues to push his emotional and vocal capacity as well as moved him into a new competitive category, Musical Theater-Adult Advanced, where he placed 3rd at the chapter level. As he said in the last letter it’s not about the placement, it’s what you learn along the way. Jim also took a big step by auditioning for a community theater. We’ll let you know if he gets a call back.

Probably the big highlight of the year was a reunion of the Mendoza boys. Jim and his three brothers haven’t been in the same locale at the same time in more than 20 years. Over the Thanksgiving weekend they descended upon Larry’s (brother #2) home in Phoenix (Larry’s wife, Cherise, is now up for sainthood) for a very loud and fun filled reunion. Larry has taken up photography and archived the gathering. Hopefully, many of these pics will not see the light of day. 😊

Food for thought: Feed the Birds (Tuppence a Bag) is the heartbeat of “Mary Poppins. The song reminds us that it doesn’t take much to do the right thing, to do a nice thing, to do a kind thing, to give a little love. It doesn’t take much – “tuppence.”

Merry Christmas and the best of the holidays from our casa to su casa.

From La Casa Mendoza 2021

2021 – a sorta return to normalcy. Zoom may have become a necessary utility, but at least we’re now venturing into public spaces again. Date Nights have made their return, as well as the other activities we have sorely missed. We still couldn’t have a Showcase for the Cure, but we still raised funds in the fight against breast cancer to help our new partners The Carol Milgard Foundation. Much thanks to our generous donors.

Laura has been able to restart her 4-H Club. It’s so much fun listening to her talk about her kids and their accomplishments. They even had fairs where they could show off their skills and gave Laura the opportunity to get into “fair mode”.

To keep her creative mind sharp, Laura participated in “The 52 Week Sewing Challenge”. This is a Facebook online sewing support group designed to challenge and motivate people to sew up one project a week during the year. Each week comes with a sewing theme that can be used for inspiration. It’s an opportunity to try new patterns and designers, expand sewing skills and use up that fabric in the stash (Jim has doubts about the using up the fabric in the stash part). As one can expect, Laura has created some amazing things.

Jim continues singing and is having a lot of fun along the way. By the time you read this he will have submitted recordings for this year’s National Association of Teachers of Singing (NATS) competition. To quote his coach, Jordyn, “This event is not about winning or losing. I am truly never disappointed if someone doesn’t place in their category. The fact that you are doing it is a win in my book. NATS is a great way for us to measure your growth as a singer and get some comments back about what other teachers hear.” Jim is loving this journey.

La Casa Mendoza has recovered from the recent set of improvements. Drywall repairs have addressed the myriad of cracks that occurred pre and post foundation reset. New concrete adorns our driveway, garage, and walking paths; and the newly installed shed awaits the stuff to be stored. Plus, we have an awesomely cool new deck! Patio furniture will be added in the spring. As for the grounds surrounding the house, let’s just say that some serious landscaping is in order this spring.

In case you’re wondering, our cats seem nonplussed by the goings on, and continue to have no respect for bathroom privacy.

If the there is a bright side to this pandemic, it is that the humans of La Casa Mendoza have gotten a sneak peek at what life could be in their “next third” and have refocused their retirement goals. Jim even said “no” to something (not anything Laura related).

Food (or coffee) for thought: The practice of caffè sospeso is a Neapolitan tradition that was born in the late 1800s in the center of the city and that boomed during World War II. Originating in the many working-class cafés of Naples, where someone would order a sospeso—paying the price of two coffees but consuming only one, leaving the other to be suspended until later. Anyone could then ask whether there was a sospeso available and would be served a coffee for free. This is not about paying for the order for the person next in line. It’s more about taking care of an individual who may be dealing with something, who’s just looking for a cup of coffee as a source of comfort. Give it a try. It feels pretty good.

From our casa to yours, Merry Christmas & Happy Holidays.

Thoughts on Juneteenth

As part of the most recent legislative session, the Washington State Legislature passed HB 1016 making Juneteenth a state holiday (the federal legislature would follow suit). These are the words that I shared as part of the public commentary on HB 1016.


Mr. Chairman, it is my honor to appear before you and this committee to speak in favor of passage of HB 1016 – a bill that would make Juneteenth a holiday in the State of Washington.


In many ways, Juneteenth represents how freedom and justice in the US has always been delayed for black people. The decades after the end of the Civil War would see a wave of lynching, imprisonment, and Jim Crow laws take root. What followed was the disproportionate impact of mass incarceration, discriminatory housing policies, and a lack of economic investment. And now, in the light of the recent deaths of Ahmaud Arbery, Breonna Taylor, and George Floyd – deaths which sparked a response that amplified the very reasons why black lives matter. it is clear that while progress has been made in black America’s 150 years out of bondage, there is still much to do.

These resounding tragedies have forced people around the world to open their eyes to the plight of black people in this country and beyond. While the universal call-to-action from individuals and corporations regarding black lives matter seems new, it’s important to recognize that black Americans have been fighting for justice since this country’s inception.

Which is exactly why it’s so important to create the holiday of Juneteenth as a means for Washingtonians of every race to remember, learn about and celebrate the nation’s enduring, but unfinished, aspiration of liberty and justice for all.

Hi Mom!

I turned on the TV this morning and was greeted by the “Hi Mom” aria created by NFL Films. This was a collection of clips of NFL players saying “Hi Mom” with a take of “Il Largo Factotum” from the “Barber of Seville” in the background. If you haven’t seen it or can’t recall it, check out https://youtu.be/CP1ZtcH5RQM.

As I was watching these big burly dudes saying “Hi Mom” a question popped into my head: When did the term ‘Momma’s boy’ become a pejorative? I’m willing to be that each of those players who were part of the video will tell you that they are Momma’s boys and proud of it!

For whatever reason, my mind also went to the ceremonies of DeMolay and I thought about the number of references to mothers that are made.

In Public Installation of Officers, while the incoming Master Councilor is kneeling before the altar with both of his hands upon the Holy Scriptures, he is asked, “Do you promise, upon your honor as a DeMolay, that you will demand of each member clean living, high respect for parents and deference to womanhood?”

If Chapter functions, whether open or private, reaches the hour of nine o’clock in the evening, the brothers are required to give the Nine O’Clock Interpolation. In this prayer, the Chaplain prays for a “special blessing for our mothers who have watched over us with unceasing care during all the years of our lives”

From my favorite ceremony, the Flower Talk: “DeMolay can ask no more of you than that you shall endeavor so to live as to be worthy of your mother’s love.”

I’m sure that if I took a deeper dive that I would find more, but there is no doubt in my mind that the ceremonies of DeMolay allow me to say that I’m a Momma’s boy and damn proud of it!

Because at the end of the day…there is nothing effeminate in the home loving, mother-loving, father-loving young man, gratefully remembering the debt he can never repay, but striving to pay it in thoughtful consideration, courtesy, affectionate and dutiful obedience. 

Hi Mom!

2020 at La Casa Mendoza

Ah, 2020! You filthy beast!

Things got off to a great start! Jim went to Louisville on a fact-finding trip in preparation for the 2021 Conference of Grand Masters that was scheduled for Seattle. Upon his return, he learned that he was approved for work-from-home – always a bonus for a field employee. Laura enjoyed another Sewing & Stitchery Expo, and got to show off her kids and their talents to a bunch of fellow sewists. Plus she got another all-clear on her mammogram. Then…

The pandemic found Laura without a job for a couple of months. Jim’s work-from-home status took on a new dynamic as “live & in living color” became virtual (maybe you missed it, he’s a bit of an extrovert). Date nights got put on hold. Race for the Cure turned into a “walk where you are”. Even the 2021 Conference got changed to a virtual event. It can’t be denied that much of what defines who and what we are was yanked away from us. The easy way out is to wallow in despair. The tough and more rewarding road is to figure out a Plan B and make it happen, and that’s what we did.

Laura teaches a very tactile skill, sewing, and that requires tactile instruction. Well you can’t do that and maintain six feet of social distancing, so like other teachers she learned how to do what she does online. The amount of time & energy that she puts into a lesson plan, and the enthusiasm that she brings to the table to keep her kids engaged is awesome.

Normally, her kids are able to strut their stuff at the county and state fairs. With the live events having been cancelled, Laura and other adult leaders in Pierce County put together a virtual fair that had over 15,000 visitors – that’s a lot of people checking out the creations of some very talented kids.

Jim went on a mind, body, spirit crusade.

SPIRIT – Jim participated in the Puget Sound Chapter of the National Association of Teachers of Singing (NATS) Competition.  He has been working with the amazing, Jordyn Day, for a little more than a year, and as amazing as Jordyn is expectations were non-existent. It was about seeing how much he had grown as a singer and performer. Plus, to quote Kurt Vonnegut, “Practicing an art is a way to make your soul grow”. Guess what, he placed 2nd in his category!

MIND – Jim completed his Certified Employee Benefits Specialist (CEBS) designation. He prides himself on being a lifelong learner and being of the best value to those he serves. Achieving the CEBS was a perfect way for him to fulfill his mind and life mission.

BODY – Yeah, working on that one…

Here’s the thing: Being at home together, nearly 24/7, has brought to the forefront this reality – yes, we do love each other, but we also really like each other!

Bells (L) and Sassy (R) continue to fascinate us. Their big thing is wanting to take showers. They will stand at the bathroom door waiting for one of us to walk by. When one of us eventually does, they will meow until we turn on the shower faucet. Aren’t cats averse to water? Plus, based upon their feeding area, they are not what one would call fastidious. We still love ‘em.

We even got some work done around our house. New windows have brightened up the place, and the early returns indicate an improvement in our energy usage. We also got rid of a patio awning that was getting to be an eyesore. As this will be the home that will be our retirement residence, we will be tackling several projects over the coming years.

Some final thoughts as we wrap up this crazy year: Generosity of spirit is the openness and willingness to share our own ‘gifts’ freely with others, joyously and willingly and without expectation of receiving anything in return. Generosity of spirit is created through respect and compassion for others; it involves experiencing and celebrating that which is important to another person.

When we share in this way, we generate abundance and increase prosperity for all. This helps us make a difference and transform situations; generate creative and innovative solutions; lead by example; strengthen our acceptance of responsibility and that of others; share our wisdom and knowledge for everyone’s benefit; explore and build connecting threads where there were none before; and foster peace and harmony. And we can celebrate all that becomes possible as a result.

While being generous in spirit means not expecting anything in return, it yields more to us than we could ever imagine. What we have given will come back to us in ways we may never have expected. From our casa to yours, Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays.

2019 at La Casa Mendoza

61613737_10219059374862472_5599276785654038528_nRecently, Laura posted on her Facebook page that we have a “nutso crazy” schedule. She’s right, but it’s the life we’ve chosen and it allows us to make some great memories. No doubt you’ve seen us doing the Date Night thing on Facebook. I’m so glad I was listening when that idea was presented some 30+ years ago. Probably the most important memory for 2019 is that Laura entered her 11th year of survivorship. As they say “11 is louder!” One of the cool things about beating cancer is that you get to make more memories – and that’s a good thing.

Laura continues to teach kids the joy of making things with needle & thread. At this 68334674_10219616549791497_7579394697819324416_oyear’s county fair, she was greeted with a commemorative bench appropriately placed outside the entrance of the building she superintends. The bench pays tribute to her tireless efforts as a mentor and volunteer.

Her kids are inspired by her teaching style and it’s fun to watch how she encourages kids to be better with each stitch. At the state fair, all of Laura’s kids qualified for the fashion review finals. Following the state fair, despite several kids not being able to return to her program due to school related commitments, she picked up nine new kids. Yes, she is a popular teacher.

67899257_10219579777072202_4056390783354273792_oI decided to challenge himself on two fronts. As a vocalist, I have had performances that have knocked folks socks off. I’ve also had a few that could be best described as “well wasn’t that special”. In an effort to be more consistent, I sought out the services of a vocal coach. Jordyn is a bit of a unicorn in the world of vocal instruction, as she is a gifted singer who can also effectively teach. The breathing exercises and scale work are exhausting, but folks are noticing a higher level of consistency, depth, and range in my voice. I have a goal to audition for my community theater in late 2020, so some serious work lies ahead of me.

On the second front I’m challenging myself professionally by going after the Certified Employee Benefits Specialist (CEBS) designation. Having spent nearly 15 years in the world of benefits marketing and expanding my knowledge base beyond retirement plans and retirement planning, I came to the conclusion that earning the certification would make me more valuable to my organization. They must feel the same way as they agreed to support my efforts.

This year, Laura & I decided no more gifts. To be sure there will be stuff under the tree and in the stockings, but things will be a bit different. We have everything we could ever want. Things are nice, but memories are priceless – and that’s what we hope to create for and give to each other.

As we look forward to making new memories, we will also take the time to cherish the memories of those who left us this year – Dad, Al, Chuck, Ray, Winnie – wish you were here. It would have been a treat to make some more memories with ya. Be sure to look down on us from time to time, OK.

From La Casa to Mendoza to yours, the Merriest of the Christmas Season and the very Best of the New Year.

An Oasis of Kindness

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Not long ago, I was privileged to see the Broadway musical “Come From Away”. Set in the week following the September 11 attacks, “Come From Away” tells the story of what happened when 38 planes carrying some 7000 passengers were forced to land in Gander, Newfoundland & Labrador, Canada – a town with a population of 9600.  As I watched the show unfold I could only think that in the wake of something horrible, something amazingly human happened.

I am privileged, with permission, to share this firsthand account from my Brother RW Mac Moss, a member of Airways Lodge #26 under the Grand Lodge of Newfoundland & Labrador.

Gander Freemasons Hall is the meeting hall and club rooms for the Masonic Fraternity in Gander & area. The building was erected in 1956 and has seen several expansions and modernizations to keep it up to date. The top floor or Blue Room is the meeting space for Gander Lodge # 16; Airways Lodge # 26; Unity Lodge # 32; Arklie Chapter # 3 Royal Arch Masons; Central Council, Royal & Select Masters; Crossroads Preceptory and the Gander Shrine Club. The downstairs space is called The Square & Compass Club. It has a small private bar, a functional commercial kitchen, and table seating for approximately 120 dinner guests. All of the named organizations begin their meetings in September following a two month summer break.

For many years, a small group of Masons would meet at the Hall around 4:00 pm and have a, (sometimes) quiet game of cards. On September 11, 2001, the usual group was beginning to gather, but the main topic today wasn’t cards or the weather. Everyone was aware of the NYC 9/11 incident and everyone was aware that Gander International Airport was receiving a lot of planes. Shortly after 4:00 pm the phone at the Clubrooms rang. It was the Gander Emergency Operations Centre inquiring if the Club would accept up to 100 passengers from TWA Flight 819. Don Leyte was the Building Manager for the Gander Masonic Hall but he had to get clearance from the President of the Gander Masonic Hall Company and the Masters of both Gander & Airways Lodges.  (Bros. Fred Moffitt* & Terry Hollett). This clearance was quickly obtained and Don called the EOC and told them they were beginning to prepare the building for Passenger occupancy.

Calls quickly went out to Lodge Members and their friends to bring in blankets, bedding and food! The Square & Compass Club has a standing credit account at Gander Co-op Store and several members including Gander Masonic Hall President, Hayward Clarke, were delegated to go to the Co-op and get enough food to get them through the next 24 hours. The volunteers worked through the evening and early morning, cleaning and clearing the meeting room and club room, making sure they would be ready for their guests.

The “Blue Room” where Masonic Meetings were held, has a beautiful Blue wool carpet adorned with Square & Compass symbols. Don was told that they would be receiving cots for the Passengers, so it was decided to cover the carpet with plastic to keep it from getting dirty. However the cots didn’t arrive until the afternoon of September 12 but the 100 guests slept in relative comfort their first night on that magnificent carpet.

The Square & Compass Club was uniquely qualified to feed the Passengers from the TWA Flight. Regular Masonic social functions are held at the clubrooms for Christmas, Valentines or Installation banquets where Lodge volunteer cooks regularly prepare and serve food for up to 120 Masons & their Ladies.

Around 3:00 am on September 12, the first busses arrived bringing the travel weary, emotionally distraught, passengers from TWA Flight 819. As with all host locations, the Passengers crowded around the single television, and tried to absorb the images of destruction that led them to this tiny town in Newfoundland & Labrador. Hayward Clarke recalls periods of deathly quiet followed by exclamations of profound grief and shock as the passengers saw the planes impact the Twin Towers. The Masons and their Ladies wept with the passengers as they jointly felt the loss inflicted on America.

Eventually the Guests were led upstairs to the Blue Room where Brethren of both Lodges and their Ladies issued them their blankets and pillows and urged them to settle down as best they could and try to get some rest. The only cautions issued to the guests were, “No food or drink in the sleeping area.” (That was done to protect the carpet!), and “Please keep talking to a whisper.” The carpeted area was approximately 50ft X 30 ft. Each guest had 15 square feet, a space about 2.5 ft. X 6.5 ft. to lay out their bedding. The expression sleeping ‘head & toe’ took on a whole new meaning.

Breakfast the next morning was as good as you would get at a quality hotel. A variety of cereals, fruits & juices, eggs any way you liked them,  a choice of bacon, ham or bologna and white & whole wheat toast, washed down with brewed coffee and orange pekoe tea. The Passengers loved it!

The lunch meal came from soups, sandwiches, & casseroles donated by members and friends of the Masonic community. Later that afternoon, the S&C Club was informed that food was now available at the Community Centre Ice Arena and the coordination of food acquisition, storage and delivery was being done by the Salvation Army.

As was the case with many Host sites, some of the more elderly passengers were taken into homes of Lodge members, to give them a more comfortable bed. Over the course of the 4 days, all of the passengers were taken home by volunteers for showers.

The building had only one telephone and that created some stress among the Passengers as it was difficult to restrict the length of the calls once a passenger had made connection to a loved one. The phone was in use all night and well into the next day at no charge to the guests. Herb Morgan, a Mason and a volunteer at the S & C Club was returning to the Lodge following a noon food run when he noticed a young couple sitting on the grass outside the building. The young lady was crying her eyes out and the young man could not console her. Herb went over to the couple to see if he could help in any way. The young lady was distraught because she had not been able to contact her family and knew they must be very worried about her. As Herb was driving back to the Lodge, he had noticed that NewTel  (the phone company), had set up banks of telephones on tables on their property only300 metres from the Lodge building. These phones were available to passengers for free! As it was a beautiful day, Herb offered to walk the couple over to the telephones, making sure they could find their way back to the Lodge.

Every evening someone would show up with a guitar and entertain the passengers.

Some of the volunteers at the Freemasons Hall were Don Leyte, Cyril Edison*, Jack Granville, Wayne Wareham, Fred Moffitt*, Gerry Mercer*, Aubrey Cooper, Mark LeGrow*, Gerry Kean, Don Milley*, Herb Morgan, Wilson Hoffe, Joe Dunphy and Gander Masonic Hall President, Hayward Clarke. (* Deceased)

At the time there was a Masonic Ladies Auxiliary and these Ladies provided great service to the Passengers as well.

Note:  Many of the Masons were involved with serving passengers at other host locations in Gander. If the Mason was a teacher, he was most likely involved in serving passenger needs at his school. All Gander Churches had passengers so many of the Masons were involved in serving the needs of passengers through their church. Personally, I was a member of Airways Lodge # 26 but also the Principal of the Gander Campus of the College of the North Atlantic, a post-secondary training college. We had 442 passengers from Air France Flight 004 (We had the two Kevins from the “Come From Away” musical.) and 172 passengers from Lufthansa Flight 416. (Mac Moss)

On 9/11/2001 Gander received 38 aircraft. 2 US military aircraft, the crews and passengers of which were cared for by the 9 Wing Royal Canadian Air Force Base in Gander. The remaining 36 aircraft were all wide body jumbo jets with passenger loads of 85 to 360 passengers. In all of these aircraft there were approximately 6700 passengers and flight crew. The Flight crews were given hotel rooms as they were required to have mandatory rest and would be fresh to fly when the planes were called to depart. All the passengers were sheltered by Lodges, churches, Lions Clubs, Kinsmen Clubs, Elks Clubs, fire halls, Canadian Legion Clubs and schools. Their bedding was as rough as a single sheet on a tile floor, to a wooden pew in a church, to a canvas cot, to luxurious, English wool, Masonic Carpet, to a comfortable bed in a private citizens home. All of the food and accommodations were provided free to the Passengers!

Passenger Comments:

“Stranded in Gander, TWA flight 819, was given a gift, a lesson in humanity, kindness, and hospitality during our short stay. With all the madness in the world, to fall into a community of such care. The world could take lesson from you folks!! Thanks Gander, Masonic lodge, Jerry, Mona, Ness, Uncle Bob, we are all your family now. We will take this spirit you showed us and move it on to others whenever we get the chance. This will be our way to show our appreciation for your kindness. Kkeep that spirit moving!”    ~ Denis & Shirley Spanek

“To the people of Gander and especially the wonderful men and women at the Masonic Lodge: Words can never express our gratitude for your caring giving and tireless effort you gave the passengers of TWA flight 819. Though difficult, you gave us faith in mankind and comforted us. We never heard a complaint. Instead it was “what can we do.” And, Gander made so many people that had never met before, a family. Thanks to all, and God bless you.”  ~ Dan and Stephanie Williams

“Best regards to the caring people of Newfoundland who dropped everything to take care of the stranded passengers. If only the rest of the world were so good-hearted, we would not be experiencing such unspeakable tragedies. Special thanks to Ness Skinner and all those associated with the Masonic Lodge. I would also like to acknowledge Jack and Karen Bechard and the many co-passengers and crew on TWA flight 819 who took special care of my 10 year old daughter and her grandfather (my father). Largely because of the way you doted over her, my daughter enjoyed her stay in Gander as much as her week in Paris. (Her mother and I are wondering how we are going to compete with the fact that she walked off the plane with an industrial-size trash bag full of toys.) You will all, forever, be in our thoughts and prayers.”  ~ Alex’s dad

“Our heartfelt thanks to all the wonderful people of Gander, for going “above and beyond” caring, love, and hospitality! TWA Flight 819 from Paris to St. Louis were taken in and housed at the Gander/Airways Masonic Lodge for three days. The volunteers there cooked, arranged for showers and laundry, and made us feel like family. When we left on September 14th, we were family! Thank you cannot begin to express our feelings of gratitude. You will never be forgotten, but fondly remembered as “family and friends”! ~ Jerry & Mieka Gerard: Tampa, Florida

“To all of the wonderful people of Gander, You turned a disaster into a triumph. My husband and I were coming back from a two week trip to Paris. The experiences we had in Gander, particularly at the Masonic Lodge gave us hope for the future of our troubled world. I am infused with “Gander Generosity and Goodness” and have tried to treat everyone I encounter with the same spirit that you all showed to us. On a funny note, we shared with everyone at home about what happened in your wonderful town. Thank you again for opening your homes and hearts to us. And hello to everyone on TWA Flight 819. “     ~ Paul and Julie Bishop

5 Points of Fellowship and Social Media

I was enjoying the recent edition of the Washington Masonic Tribune, in particular an article written by VW Doug Stamper, Deputy of the Grand Master in District No. 7. I offer it here for your consideration.

Reverend G Oliver speaks of the 5 points of fellowship in the 19th Century before the GL of England in his lecture before reunification, “Assisting a brother in his distress, supporting him in his virtuous undertakings, praying for his welfare, keeping inviolate his secrets and vindicating his reputation as well in his absence as in his presence.”  These were symbolized by Hand, Foot, Knee, Breast and Back.  (online reference)

I am reminded of these points when considering the context of social media and the craft. Brothers, one cannot set aside these lessons when engaging in “dialog” online. I placed quotes around dialog because what is happening is a series of single duplex monologs where all civility is cast aside. We all understand that we do not waste time in lodge on the topics of politics and religion, nor do we suffer it to be done by others. Why then do we apply a separate set of rules when posting online? Does your friend group not include your brothers? Why is it acceptable to publicly excoriate another’s character because of a difference in opinion? The deliberate contradiction is tearing at the fabric of our craft.

Social Media is not a place to spend time if you want to change someone’s mind, nor is it conducive to a well-screen-shot-2015-03-21-at-2-32-06-pmreasoned debate. Rather, it is a place where tribal warfare is supported by memes someone fabricated in Photoshop, or by some unsupported statistics posted in some critic’s twitter feed. We are better than this. The prominent social media platforms are all designed to surround you with opinions that match your own – further entrenching you in the “correctness” of your position. Careful attention must be paid to fact checking any curated set of facts that suddenly appear on your feed. We can do better than this.

Further, if your online presence includes a public display of your membership in Freemasonry (non-anonymous presence), then you need to elevate your dialog to a higher level. Every character, syllable, word, or sentence reflects the good-bad-ugly on our fraternity. Are we not the men who “… is one whom the burdened heart may pour out its sorrow, to whom distress may prefer its suit, whose hand is guided by justice, and whose heart is expanded by benevolence?” I find it disappointing when witnessing the interactions between my brothers and hope we can all pause a moment to reconsider more than just being right. Empathy and attention to the bigger picture will lead you back to our principal virtues on which this great fraternity is founded.

Lastly Brethren, if one researches The Royal Society, the early predecessor to Freemasonry, you see the origins of the prohibition of discussions on politics and religion. Dago Rodriguez, PM and Editor of the Fraternal Review wrote of The Royal Society, “Take no one’s word.” This is to say that one ought to do their homework regarding facts of the matter in a search for Truth.  And, he writes, “Truth is the goal to knowledge, and tolerance is the pathway.”

Note: Doug wanted to make sure that I credit Br. Robert Mullis for inspiring the first paragraph; and Joe MacIntyre for sharing the piece that inspired the last paragraph